Also, nothing important should occur before I have had my first dose of caffeine for the day.
The subject of today's blog is in the new theme of my blog is:
Getting yourself into a positive routine in order to make the time away from your loved one go smoothly & without stress.
Here is a list of nonconstructive things I find myself doing while falling into a slump instead of into a positive routine, and the solutions I am using to combat them:
Problem #1. IM LATE!!
My husband usually wakes me up for work, with out him here I just shut the alarm off and go back to sleep until 5 mins before work. Causes stress and for me to be late for work!
Solution: Set an alarm in the bathroom, so I HAVE to get up. Also getting wake-up texts from Marcus help as well. :) Lay out Kami's clothes that SHE helped pick the night before so there is no
battle! Figure out how long everything takes you to do in the morning & make a mini-schedule, so you aren't constantly surprised when things are running behind.
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Problem #2. MAD MOM.
Too much time with a crabby child makes mom crabby.
Solution: Ask for help! When you are raising a child by yourself even when you are alone for only a year, it can be stressful! Ask family and friends for help. Pay daycare to keep your child for an extra hour to get grocery shopping and other important tasks done quickly and stress free.
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Problem #3. IM BORING.
Becoming a shut-in!
Solution: You know all those friends who say if you ever need anything..... take them up on it! I am so guilty of "sitting around feeling sorry for myself" Get up- get out there- make your day better. If you are feeling like you might be getting depressed, MAKE THE CALL to you friend, parent, anyone who you trust. They love you and they will listen. My friend Jacci, whose brother and boyfriend both joined the army has decided to plan a once a week wine night & play date for the kids. What a great idea to put something FUN into your schedule to look forward to!
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Problem #4. IM GOING TO EXPLODE!
Shutting your feelings in.
Solution: It is easy to bottle things up, especially when your free time consists of a lot of alone time. Start a journal, or in my case... a blog! Let your feelings out. Write Letters! This is a lost art, but writing a letter to your loved one is a great way to get you emotions out, and plus it is fun for them to get mail. Include funny pictures and drawings from the kids. This is not only cleansing for you but your significant other will be thrilled to get a little bit of home in the mail. Also, don't forget your best resource, someone you can talk to & trust.
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Problem #5. IM A FATTY.
Eating when you are bored/alone/depressed.
Solution: Its easy to let yourself go when you don't have anyone to impress. And for me the biggest problem is eating healthy since I don't cook! The best way I have found to eat healthy is, to limit my food budget to only healty things with a long shelf life... rice, frozen chicken breasts, frozen fruit juices.... That way nothing is going to spoil (this happens to us non cookers a lot) but when we do cook, these items are easy to make, convenient and healthy!
As for the letting yourself go- make it so you DO have someone to impress. Marcus and I have used technology A LOT this far in our time apart. Get dressed up, do your makeup, and take pictures of yourself to email to your man! He will love this, and it gives you a reason to look nice! I find that wearing makeup and taking pride in how you look directly translates to how you feel! Its also fun to have someone else take fun photos, here is one of my pictures from a Hey Cupcake shoot.
I hope this little list had helped, not only those who have a loved one in a deployment & away from home, but for the moms, wives and working women who feel like you might be starting to fall into a slump.
It happens to all of us!
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